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Setting Your Resilient Boundaries

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Knowing how to set effective boundaries is a skill that you'll use throughout your life. Is it possible to set effective boundaries when you’re stressed? What is the meaning of boundaries? Are some people “those type” of people who just can’t hold on to boundaries?


Read on to understand how to create resilient boundaries that are easy to uphold...


Set Effective Boundaries by Tonight

Setting effective boundaries can be simple. Let me give you hope...anyone can do it. You may have realized that in today's stressful society, it’s easy to get caught up in what others think of us. We strive to be perfect and to please everyone around us. However, this can be extremely detrimental to our mental and physical health. 


Setting boundaries is a way to take back control of our lives and to focus on what is truly important. 


It's entirely possible to learn how to set effective boundaries that can’t be trampled….and that will be easy for you to enforce, no matter what your situation. You’ll be able to create your beautifully resilient boundaries by tonight!


(Psst! There's an even more in-depth article on how setting effective boundaries makes you smart over here.)




Your Own Boundaries Are Good for Other People

 In our culture today, we are constantly bombarded with the message that we need to be more open and understanding of other people and their needs. This is true to a certain extent, but it is also important to remember that your own boundaries are good for other people too.

When you have healthy boundaries, you’re able to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. This allows you to be present for other people in a way that’s not possible when you’re trying to please everyone all the time.

Your boundaries also help other people to feel safe around you.

When they know that you will not tolerate certain types of behavior, they can relax and be themselves without worry. This creates an atmosphere of trust and respect that is beneficial for all involved.

It's important to have boundaries for yourself so that you can be healthy and happy. When you have strong boundaries, it benefits not only yourself but also the people around you.

Here are three ways that your own boundaries can benefit other people:

1. You will be a better friend.

If you have boundaries, you’ll be able to give more appropriately to your friends because you won't be depleted from giving too much of yourself away.

You'll also be able to set appropriate expectations for how much time and energy you have to give, which will make your friendship stronger and more sustainable.


2. You will be a better partner.

When you have boundaries, you're more likely to be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship. STOP: Go back and read that sentence again. This is because you'll know what you need and want from a partner, and you won't settle for anything less.

It is important to set boundaries in order to protect yourself and your relationships. When you set clear boundaries, it communicates to others that you value yourself and your time. This ultimately benefits everyone involved because it allows for more meaningful interactions and connections.

3. You will deflect toxic relationships.

Boundaries also help to ensure that we are physically and emotionally safe. By setting limits on what we will tolerate from others, we can avoid toxic or harmful situations. This not only benefits us, but also the people around us who care about us.

Overall, setting boundaries is a way of taking care of yourself which in turn benefits the people in your life. It shows that you respect yourself and helps to create healthier relationships.


10 Tips for Setting Boundaries

  1. Define what you need
  2. Set aside time for yourself
  3. Be assertive on your own behalf
  4. Don't be afraid to say no
  5. Prioritize your time
  6. Stick to your decision
  7. Practice saying no
  8. Communicate your expectations (but not required)
  9. Know your limits
  10. Define your personal space and time


In the end, setting boundaries is not selfish. It is smart. It allows you to take care of yourself and your needs. It also allows you to have healthy relationships with others. When you set boundaries, you are taking control of your life and making choices that are best for you.

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so you can get started crafting your best boundaries today.


Now you know exactly how and why to set boundaries, but what about our old nemesis: imposter syndrome? I’ve got an amazing blog for you to read soon to help you with that, so stay tuned.

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